Watching a movie on the flight over to NZ got me reflecting on how people let fear drive them apart. It is very easy to do – fear to have the conversation you really want to and need to have – means you say nothing, make assumptions, dive into your own thinking and drift further apart.
This is so damaging in a relationship (business or personal) and once the rot sets in it is very difficult to reverse. So notice it, own it, name it and deal with it. Life is far too short not to – why invest in the new when an investment in the existing could result in the release of such potential and such exponential possibilities that we could not even imagine what we could create. So face the fear, talk about it, stop ignoring it or pretending it is going to be OK…….it won’t be OK unless you address it openly, directly and bluntly AND with the amazing intent to release the potential you know is there waiting to be unlocked!
Think of a relationship where you have drifted apart – acknowledge the fear that has perpetuated this wedge and space – own it, name it and determine what conversation you can have to remove the rot. Think about the context and then identify the necessary content.
I am going to do this with a business relationship and will keep you posted on my outcome and my emotional resilience.
