If you don’t understand – ask me
If you don’t agree – challenge me
If you don’t like it – tell me
But don’t start judging me silently.

Read this on social media a few weeks ago and I have been using it in my leadership development programs especially when we complete the modules on engaging in conversations and resolving conflict constructively.
engaging in conversations and resolving conflict constructively
At the very heart of collaboration is the need for divergent thinking and this means complete transparency – adopt the mantra above and you will find greater ability to collaborate! People are being more open and honest with each other and not walking out of meetings and talking about their “judgements” with other people. This is a seriously destructive trait we have perfected in Australia – avoiding the conversations we really need to have. And if we do decide to have the conversation eventually – we don’t have it with the right person. Instead we talk about it with someone else – sharing our judgement and frustrations with someone else!

I have been working hard on using this mantra each day and welcome your contribution to this conversation – how are you going with its application?